A play with conventions done odd
Well this was.... ehem odd...In this drama we get to follow the thoughts of a girl who has lived long enough to realise that life is just not as lovely as she thought it would be when she was young. Having pretty much no special skills, dreams or hints of aspiration she basically just want to get by and thinks very little of her self.
After a person just lowered her price tag she ends up i a share house with the guy who took her virginity, normally I would not say the word took for this type of situation but this is one of the very rare occasions where it works... She seams to feel a bit awkward/ashamed over the whole situation but somehow winds up with his erectile dysfunctional boner against her but and well it does not get less weird from there...
She also meets Hasse a guy with some other type of dysfunction in need of some TLC and Aki a fangirl who is probably the most together of the bunch...
Together they explore love, relationships, potential marriage ideas, friendship... Ok honestly they become something outside most family and romance conventions... Helping each other grow ( both relocation of blood-flow and spiritually) Refreshing, different and easy to watch. There are of course a bunch of misunderstandings and drama here and there, but hey we could not call it drama if it was to smooth of a glide... (sorry).
So do I recommend it, sure it is short easy to binge and not something you have seen before.
P.S. I also found it odd to see so much stuff from Sweden, something tells me IKEA sponsored this...
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Not a single likeable character in this drama.
Moreover, the main storyline involves a woman reconnecting with and once again being pressured into physical intimacy by her first boyfriend, who sexually assaulted her in junior high.It’s never outright stated that he assaulted her, but it’s hard for me to read that scene any other way. And it clearly leaves her traumatized well into adulthood, with the effects echoing out across all parts of her life. Pretty tragic.
All of this is romanticized, but in such a way that even if this weren’t a story about a rapist, I would hate it. There is zero chemistry between the leads, even though they spend a lot of time in physical/sexual contact and talking about sex. The FL is not so much a character as a cardboard box with eyes drawn on it. The ML is at least supposed to be stoic in character, but the ML’s actor took this as a free pass to not bother emoting at all and just looks like a personified brick wall in most scenes.
I also hated the second leads. Everyone in that house was a trainwreck. “Screw-Up Adults Sharehouse” indeed.
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This was simply awful. Please look elsewhere.
Spoilers (or possibly just warnings) ahead. Trigger warning for sexual assault, if that helps you.TL;DR - "Love" triangle between two selfish guys and one woman with really low self-esteem. A showcase of objectification. Unpleasant. I recommend you go elsewhere for your rom-com/unnatural-cohabitation needs.
This show was like watching your friend go out with a total loser (in this case our friend is Morikawa Aoi, who is clearly a game actress with a lot of talent; she was much better served in Bungaku Shojo, although that is also iffy in spots). It made me feel bad. I watched to the end hoping for…something. I didn't get it.
If you’re hoping the skinship is worth it, it’s not. It’s unsexy and painful to watch. It's cruel, and it's rapey. And the show doesn't seem to confront those aspects of itself. Is this an examination of the FL's state and how she got there? Only accidentally, it seems. It might be interesting as an allegory for how Japanese culture depends on misogyny, but that could be too facile and a bit of a stretch (I'll get into that later, and you can decide for yourself).
Morikawa plays a woman named Terada Aki, who feels directionless. She is in a dead-end part-time job and rather cheerfully states that she has no skills and no dreams--an acceptance of her rotten lot in life that is practically Zen. I mean, she's aware that she has "discounted" herself, but she seems to get by. Presumably she was getting some enjoyment from her boyfriend of four years, but at the start of the show he cheats on her rather matter-of-factly and that's that.
All aboard the low self-esteem express.
She needs a new place to stay. Through her one normal friend (who exits the show after the first few episodes, thus cutting Terada off from any normal advice, I guess) she gets a room in a share house with three other people. This sets up a sort of "love" triangle between her and two selfish, emotionally stunted male leads: Hase, the "rich" guy with a good job whose mother owns the house; and Hongyo, Terada's high school "boyfriend" (and, frankly, rapist), now a successful novelist.
There is another woman in the house, Kuritani, who is weirdly detached and also talks down to Terada and takes advantage of her in her own way, but she doesn't really factor in.
Other, more positive reviews seem to glide over the ugly motivations of the two men or claim they are unexplained or inscrutabe, but they seemed clear to me. Neither one appreciates her for anything other than how she can fulfill their self-centered needs.
Hase grew up with an overbearing mother who was basically all tiger and no mom. His household lacked all warmth (friendly greetings, non-critical attentiveness, genuine concern, and so on). He became successful, but now he is trying to escape his mother (while still living comfortably in the house she owns!). He is sociable but happy to be alone. He is also very cerebral and calculating. Despite or because of his upbringing, he is full of confidence in himself. He is trying his best to dodge marriage (as his mother continues to try to run his life). All he wants is someone ineffectual in the wife role to fend off his mom’s marriage talk without making any demands on him. He doesn’t want sex or companionship.
But he does crave the maternal comfort he never got as a kid. And so he thinks he has found the perfect candidate in Terada, who, despite her luckless state, is unfailing in her politeness, expressive in her care and warmth, an avid cleaner of the house, and (somewhat improbably) a great cook, all while being extremely meek and manipulable. She is a literal (idealized) replacement for his mother. He seems to get the idea from both Terada's natural kindness to him and seeing how easily Hongyo manipulates her (more about that in a sec).
Hase isn't as clever as he thinks, since he likes to muse aloud about his attempts to manipulate both Terada and Hongyo for his own advantage. As the audience, we are also given access to his scheming thoughts (a vantage point we are denied with Hongyo--maybe he doesn't have any thoughts at all). Hase never cares about her feelings. For example, he tricks her into having to pretend to be his girlfriend at a dinner meeting with his mom, after she had decided against doing that. And the few times he gives Terada valid warnings about how Hongyo is mistreating her, it is never out of concern; he is merely trying to “win” her away from his competitor.
Hongyo has the flat affect of a sociopath. The source of his "damage" is never revealed, but he seems to be a budding yet strangely unmotivated sadist. In high school, Terada was attracted to his mysterious loner vibe. She hit on him, and he just went along with it, as blank as ever--until they went to his house. In what appeared to be the spirit of fun (and probably a certain amount of charity from the pretty popular girl to the outsider), she wondered if they should kiss. Maybe she thought he would be flustered and she would maintain "the upper hand". Maybe--stay with me, I know it's wild--she just wanted a kiss. As she indicates to us throughout the show, she had at that point never really encountered any significant setbacks or trauma. She was at the peak of her confidence, and the uber-passive Hongyo wouldn't seem threatening.
But as he explains later, when he suddenly kissed her, the girl who was “always laughing” got a “surprised” look on her face, and he decided he wanted to see more of her making that face. So, he just kept going and took her virginity—something she was not expecting and clearly didn’t want. Her recollection seems to paper over this (she calls him her “first intimate partner”), and, as per usual for her low self-esteem in the present day, she takes responsibility for going along with what happened.
But it’s telling that after that incident she immediately dumps him and never speaks to him again. And that she later identifies that this was the beginning of her crisis of faith in herself, and the end of her confidence.
Back in the present, Hongyo has erectile dysfunction (which is linked to writer's block). Perhaps he does not enjoy sex with women who want to sleep with him. It is easy to imagine that his success as a novelist brought such woman into his orbit who might push through his passivity. But we don’t know why and it is never explained. However, while giving Terada a tour of the house, he “accidentally” pins her face-first against the cupboards—and gets his first erection in two years. Coincidence? Unlikely.
This starts the ridiculous “sleep with me so I can get 'morning wood' and retrain my penis to work” scheme, which Terada perplexingly goes along with. Perhaps her innate pseudo-maternal generosity (which has survived her travails) kicks in. Perhaps she accepts it as her role (everyone in the house seems to pretend that this arrangement is important as a cure for Hongyo’s writer’s block). Perhaps it’s a kind of Stockholm Syndrome that causes her to reframe her rapist as an enigmatic lover--something his behavior doesn’t support, which she recognizes that from time to time.
He is focused on himself. He is not interested in Terada other than for what she can do for him.
Of course, although Hongyo tells her that she can set the boundaries for their "therapeutic" bed time, he continuously pushes them and takes advantage of her compliant nature (and wishful thinking). He gets into her clothes by promising to not move his hand. Then he asks if he can move it "a little" and immediately gropes her breast. All this happens while she lies still with her back to him--he doesn't even bother to face her.
"Progress" is made. He comes in his pants one night. The next session culminates in essentially another rape, where he whines for sex, tells her to lie still when she instinctively moves away, ignores her discomfort at his penetration (all as she lies with her back to him, as before). She tells herself she welcomes it, but it is affectionless, impersonal, short, and unsafe (resulting in a pregnancy scare). He spends zero seconds on her pleasure. Her facial expressions tell us she is not enjoying it.
When they have sex again, she tentatively hugs him (afterward) and tells herself she is receiving a kind of happiness. He actively offers none.
So, this is our triangle: a disinterested liar who feigns emotions to lock down a new mommy and useful fake wife; a sociopath who displays no positive emotions at all but feels entitled somehow to demand a pushover sex object to service his dysfunction; and poor Terada, mistreated (with her complicity) and manipulated but trying to stay cheerful and optimistic somehow so she can find happiness somewhere in all this. She treats them seriously as love matches, when neither cares about her at all.
This sick contest crescendos when Hase “marks his territory” by getting his cologne on Terada (and then taunts his rival openly about it), and Hogyo, having discovered this by literally sniffing the two of them like a dog, retaliates by suddenly biting Terada on the neck when they are in bed (in the usual submissive spooning position) even though she is once again trying to “help” him. He bites so hard that it leaves a noticeable mark. She is hurt, and Hase can only muse later that Hongyo is also “marking” her, as if it were a good stratagem.
In the end, Stockholm Syndrome is too strong to be defeated by transparently fake wooing. She decides to be “with” Hongyo. Hase gives up with good grace, since he gets most of the mommy functions anyway and never really cared about her. She seems to convince herself that she has value in her “lesser” role as both mommy AND sex object (AND cook for the other woman). She recognizes that she gets nothing but room and board—not love—but it is a place in the world and a purpose, I suppose, so she seems to make a kind of peace with herself. She almost breaks free (she moved out, having recognized that there was no genuine love for her in the house), but I guess she had nowhere to go, because she ends up moving back in almost immediately—I don’t even think it was one night.
The end. Barf. Compare this to Bungaku Shojo, where she ultimately overcomes a romantic “power imbalance” and receives both a more-equal partner and self-actualization. Watch that instead!
The metaphor: the heartless “business” man (who wants a functional mommy-like spouse rather than an emotional connection), the cruel and self-important “creative” man (who simulates emotion in his novels but has none in real life), and the liberated yet ineffective “professional” woman (who feels superior to Terada but can’t feed herself—literally, there are several scenes where she has rice on her face) all wind up exploiting and yet depending on the “traditional,” objectified caregiver to enjoy quality of life in their house. They "appreciate" what she can do for them and praise her for that, but they all demand what they want and none of them help her beyond some platitudes and food and shelter. If the house is “Japan,” I think it almost works as a metaphor for a patriarchal system. But is the show interested in exploring that kind of critique? I don't think so.
Regardless, watch something else. This one is just too sad.
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One of the worst shows I've watched
This show isn't good at all. They used the old strategy of sex innuendos because that sells, but to produce any appeal you need something more and this show is the perfect example of how important its a good storylineAlthough it's well produced and well directed there are multiple bad things in this dorama, the story it's not strong enough it doesnt have any content, the characters are weak and doesnt make you feel any empathy and the result is that you feel relieve when you realise that there are only 10 episodes of 20 minutes each one
I do not recommend this show if you like good content, it's more a waste of time than anything else.
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What did I end up watching?
Don't feel like watching something lengthy, 10 short episodes? Let's give it a try? Plot summary seems interesting, what could go wrong, right? Well, this was my thought process when I began watching this drama. It didn't take long for the "WTF" moments to arrive. Despite it being weird right from the beginning, something about the drama keeps you engaged. The story is about Terada who finds herself in a situation where she has live in a house share, and finds that her first boyfriend is also one of the people living there. Almost at their first interaction, Terada learns that Tomo Hongyo has a problem and she's the only one who can help him. Of course she decides to agree to whatever Hongyo asks! Throughout the series, we pretty much see Terada with no agency of her own. She gets pulled into situations and only after they are done she questions herself on what she thought of them. After all the character introductions, I was convinced that everyone in this house needed therapy. The only positive thing in the series was Terada's friendship development with the only other female housemate.I could have ditched the drama, but the characters (though majorly dysfunctional) were complex enough to keep you intrigued. You keep hoping for their growth, and it's only at the end that things tie up well, almost too well. I still think they need help. Despite the seemingly toxic relationship that the leads share, I couldn't deny their chemistry. Acting wise they were great too. It must have been super awkward or hilarious film this.
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as a aoi marikawa lover this drama is the shitstain of her work....
i cant with this drama. i love aoi in kakegurui, so i want to check out her other works, but this.... this is what i stumbled upon.........the male lead is hot but not that hot, also he is boring, forgettable, and annoying. the female character is also so boring, forgettable, and annoying. if im not mistaken this is an adaptation of a manga, right? their fucking sex scene tho... making me want to fucking pour acid on my retinas.....
anyway. i will pretend this drama does not exist.
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I have 0 sympathy for the ML.
The first three episodes were one of the wildest rides of a drama I've ever experienced. But that's all I made it through.It started as a weird but funny, then got just weird, then got creepy...and then creepier. Basically starts by saying they dated in middle school, he drops that he hasn't had an erection in two years but got one when he hugged her and wants to sleep in the bed with her to get a morning stiffy, then it flashbacks and basically he SAed her. Like, they were dating (I think in like jr. high), she felt he didn't care because he was kind of emotionless. They went to his house and she asked if he wanted to kiss her and he did, but then he pushed her down on the bed and they had sex. And she doesn't say it was r*pe or SA but she also didn't consent and describes it basically that she just didn't resist because she was so surprised and felt she didn't even understand what was happening. After he was done, he immediately got up and told her to go home. She felt small, stupid, and embarrassed and also kind of afraid of him so she avoided him after that. It is also what caused her to completely lose confidence in herself and withdraw from social life.
And he's the romantic lead apparently.
Anyway, I guess she doesn't hold a grudge as he keeps basically emotionally blackmailing her into sleeping in bed with him like his life might end because he can't get an erection. He even describes himself as a corpse. I have no sympathy for him. But she did. And then the final straw that had me stop watching is when he was lying behind her and accidentally came on her back and was just like "oops". Like nope. She didn't consent to that. And frankly, if he wasn't pulling such a dramatic "woe is me, I can't write without a boner, and if I can't write, I will lose my job and my livelihood and my life will be over and only you can help me get it up and save my life" as he dramatically sulks about lying on the floor and the stairs, she wouldn't have agreed. Like sorry you can't get it up, but that's not her fault or her responsibility. See a doctor. Get therapy. Leave her alone.
I have no doubt he will get some kind of redemption arc. But I don't care. His actions derailed her life, whether he meant them to or not. And it shouldn't take a chance encounter with the person who hurt her in the first place, to "fix" her. And I just feel like that's where this is going to go.
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