30 Made ni to Urusakute (2022)

A Japanese take on "Sex and the City" - if Carrie was a good friend

Four friends at the age of 29 all have their worries that in a way all come down to "crap, I have to do this and/or that before I turn 30". Get married, have a kid, answer to society's often unrealistic expectations. Haruka hasn't had sex with her boyfriend in what feels like ages, and her desire to have sex again results in her sleeping with an old-turned-new co-worker and subsequently ruining her relationship with her fiancé when he inevitably finds out. While Uta is out to her mother who approves and is very supportive of Uta, reality is very different for her girlfriend, Makoto, who struggles to live true to herself and her identity as gay in a still relatively conservative society. Kyouko discovers something about herself that forces her to really think about her desire to have a child as a single person, and how to go about it. Kanon desperately wants to get married, and often turns to luck to try and score that perfect man to marry before she turns 30.

All four women go through their struggles- but not alone. At times, they try to shoulder it on their own as to not worry their friends, but in the end, they all have each other's backs. And that's one of the beautiful things I will remember about this series. The way they portrayed adult friendships between women in this stage in life, was excellent and I could recognise myself in it almost all throughout. Another highlight for me was the portrayal of LGBTQIA+ relationships in a still somewhat conservative society like that of Japan, where you have a few but not many privileges as a non-straight person and couple. I'm not gonna lie, I teared up several times when they focused on Uta and Makoto, and after the gay couple came into the series near the end who not only helped Uta and Makoto get themselves an apartment in a LGBT-friendly building after a lot of struggle, they're also strongly implied to have helped Kyouko in her dreams of becoming a mother via surrogacy.

I adore this series for not being ashamed of discussing certain topics like being non-straight in Japan, mental health, sex, marriage in the sense of "is this right for me" and not just "when do I get married". I love series where we get to see women in higher positions, like being a CEO, and these women aren't just plot devices but have their own stories and are written excellently. Not only that, but the actresses played their parts very well, too. I'm not gonna lie, I went into this series because I saw that Shuntaro Yanagi was in it, and while I was initially disappointed that he ended up being a plot device, I stayed for the women in the series and am endlessly glad that I did. It's a very 'brutally' honest, realistic, and sometimes not very happy portrayal of what it's like to live in the shoes of any of these women. But that's why I really loved it, because it was so, so real and relatable.

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