Let's talk about the picture of women in this drama...

I think Ye Hua actually gives up quite a lot for Bai Qian though? 

When Bai Qian was Su Su, he was willing to give up his position as Crown Prince --which is why he decided to purposely lose against the Shark tribe in that battle in episode 19 or 20. But because Su Su was just Bai Qian's trial to become a High Goddess, not matter what he did or gave up, he wouldn't have succeeded. And Ye Hua also decided to take the daily lightning strikes himself as punishment even though they were meant as punishment for Su Su. 
Of course his treatment of her in the heavens isn't that great, but he did that to make people think he didn't care for her and thus people would slowly forget about her and try not to pick on her. If you read the novel, you'll be able to tell why he didn't go see her while he was avoiding her and stuff but I think the drama didn't really incorporate that part too much.  

I don't feel that Bai Qian necessary acts "powerless" around his charms, but rather that his move are so sudden and likes to catch her off guard? Bai Qian is literally one of the only (probably THE only??) High Goddess in the world so few people would dare to make such moves on her, so idk for me it feels like she's always caught off guard with his suddenness and deep affection. Because she doesn't realize her feelings for him until episode 44 but the audience knows why Ye Hua loves her so much but she doesn't know yet so I don't think she's necessarily charmed by him just yet until she realizes her feelings for him.  Also since Bai Qian and Ye Hua are betrothed, she kind of gives off the "okay might as well just deal with this kid since I have to get married to him and live with him anyways" feel (that is until she realizes she loves him too). 

I think the fact that Ye Hua cooks for Bai Qian when she is a goddess and a mortal is pretty cute haha. 

When Bai Qian needed that special herb and the pill for Mo Yuan, he went to go get it for her despite the dangers of the four monsters and loses an arm and all his immortal essence in the process. (I think this part might be past episode 40) 

and if you watch till the very end. . . Ye Hua makes the ultimate sacrifice. 

I think everyone falls for Ye Hua because he's the perfect Crown Prince. Getting married to the Crown Prince is almost always better than getting married to someone with less power I guess? And the fact that he's described as "super perfect" is probably a factor. Su Jin is understandable, since she's been accompanying him since he was literally a baby, and probably has developed feelings for him in the past 70,000 years she's known him. I feel that all the other girls aside from Bai Qian admire him for all the praise that he has and want to marry him to get out of whatever arranged marriage they have. Although it is pretty funny that almost every female likes Ye Hua hahahaha 

As for Dong Hua and Feng Jiu, their relationship does indeed keep feeling like Feng Jiu is the one that gives up things for Dong Hua (which is kind of why this couple was kind of boring but I plowed through their scenes because Feng Jiu is so cute!) There's actually a reason that Dong Hua can't return her feelings even though he likes her but it isn't shown until later in the drama. All of the Feng Jiu and Dong Hua parts were made specifically for the drama since the copyrights to the Pillow Book version of the novel were not acquired. So there might be some differences in the novel that make the relationship better?? (Haven't read the Pillow Book yet so I don't know but if anyone has read it, please let us know). 
But yeah, at least for the drama version, Feng Jiu and Dong Hua's relationship does make the female character seem kind of weaker and as if she's the one that's only giving up things for him.

The emperor's second son did not lose too much for his snake. I was surprised to see them still living in luxury lol turns out he just lost his position in the nine heavens but that place was more like a place of hell anyways. :D
I agree it was annoying how the women were so obsessed over guys, all of them...except BQ (in her 3 lives she chose to let go) and the demon princess .....no other girls did.
Ye Hua is the one who sacrificed the most though...I couldn't stand him for how he treated Su Su...but when he would just throw away his life to help her bring back his love rival because he just wants her to be happy first...wow...I was impressed. Honestly, the guy became almost a martyr.

yes I agree with Tongko, the suffering that BQ went through as SuSu was necessary because it was her trial to become a high goddess. Whether the guy in her trial was Ye Hua or not, the same suffering, treatment, and heartbreak would occur, because it was already written/predestined for her. 

I still think afterwards when Ye Hua meets BQ and realizes that SuSu and her are the same person, all his actions afterwards were quite worthy. 

Some may argue that his treatment of Su Jin sucked, but he has been polite and courteous to her for like her entire life but Su Jin just never seemed to get the message that Ye Hua didn't like her LOL or she did, and didn't want to acknowledge it haha

well I mean its just a drama, a story LOL
I mean I guess if you really love someone, you would end up doing anything for them?? 
also the fact that he's an immortal god with a lot of immortal essence/god power, so it's not like he would've really died except for that last bell sealing part. 
the war with mermaid clan ploy he failed, Su Su would've died from thunderbolt punishment since she's a mortal, I mean if you see the love of your life committing suicide wouldn't you try to save them too? 
BQ totally would've gotten herself killed if she went to get the mystical herbs and technically YH would've survived the 4 mystical beasts perfectly fine if it weren't for LiJing/XuanNu screwing up before he got there. 
as for the bell sealing, you can take it as doing it to save BQ since her level of god power isn't as high as YH or MY, but I mean he kind of did it for the entire kingdom because if he hadn't, then everything would've been destroyed. so I'd take his bell sealing as him doing his Crown Prince duties.

Exactly, that's what I was gonna write. The bell was to save all realms not just BQ. And the thunderbolt was because he knew she was innocent, and he wronged her by taking her eyes...he couldn't let her suffer everything alone.
I'm curious though as to whom would complain about Ye Hua's treatment of Su Jin. She was crazy and delusional, not like he had an obligation to play her fantasy...and he was so patient with her...smh I was so happy when he stroke her after she finally had SuSu die.

I call myself a feminist of the new age and pretty independent IRL and I just don't see where you're coming from. Yes Ye Hua gets the girls,but isn't that because of how 'impressive' he is?  He is portrayed as someone with top notch looks, power, smarts, capability, respect. Someone here mentioned that in that realm, he is the equivalent of a Celebrity Idol. Its just a fact that if someone is exceptional at something he/she will have admirers. 

Bai Qian even as the most respected High Goddess is still a woman and I'm sorry to say that even the most hardened harridan gets affected when they are the subject to an ardent and sincerely passionate pursuit. I don't blame her for getting flustered by Ye Hua's laser focus, have you seen how he looks at her (especially after ep 30?) Powerful stuff. We are all fools in love...especially in dramaland. The general theme seems to me about sacrifice and enduring love despite all obstacles and as I see it it seems to be pretty balance gender wise. Ye Hua, Li Jing, 2nd Prince and to some extent Dong Hua (I consider his Mortal love trial a sacrifice as he really didn't seem like he had to do it but he did anyway, for FJ)